A Little "Me" Time

 Alarm goes off at 5:30am and then…the day begins. Breakfast for hubby, pray for hubby, back to bed, feed the kids, exercise, feed myself, shower, Wal-Mart (way too often), lunch for kids, lunch for myself, drive the kids to wherever it is they need to go, marketing (when I have time), writing (when it’s possible), dinner for family, time alone with hubby…maybe. I think it is clear. Time to make a schedule.

With our lives becoming as busy as they are, time is golden.  Even when I think I’m going to end up with a time block in which to write, I end up doing something else. I have discovered that time with the family is becoming increasingly more difficult to secure. Sometimes I look upon the pile of laundry that is mine (and my husband’s) and think to myself…really?

I used to consider myself to be very organized: Almost meticulous. Now it’s more like, “Mommy, would you hold onto this for me?” And I say, “NO! You know I’m just going to lose it.” When did that happen? When did I become that person?

I think when there is too much going on, something’s gotta give. There is no doubt that it should not be the family. So what do I think I need to do about this? Plan a little better, wake up a little earlier and schedule all things that need to be done each week. It can be done. Really…it can.

So for those mom’s out there with a full time job, children, a husband and a million other chores in your future, I salute you. Being a mom is the most challenging and most rewarding job you will ever love.

"If evolution really works, how come mothers only have two hands?" Milton Berle

My Love/Hate Relationship with Marketing

“No one loves your book more than you,” is the quote I got when I went to a marketing class on how to market your own book. “No one knows your book better than you,” they go on to say. “Who better to market your book than you?”

Although I am very blessed that my publisher puts my books all over the world for me, (thank goodness), I still have to do a lot of my own legwork. My understanding is that these days, author’s doing their own marketing, is more of the norm, rather than the unusual.  Running around with my book in my hand, asking people to let me do signings, or handing out first chapters in hopes that someone will read them and love them, does not come easy for me.  Of course I love my books. I love my characters and have become very attached to them. As a matter of fact, when it was suggested to me to let the series go, because it was too untraditional, I couldn’t imagine putting Lilly to rest before she has even been out of the gate.

I have learned a few tricks over the past few months, thanks to my very kind and more experienced writer friends, but still I must confess that there is so much more that I need to learn. Press packages, bookmarks, printers, posters, who will let you do signings, who won’t…are all things I have yet to learn. Time is of course, a major part of good marketing. Finding the time to spend on it is crucial and those of us with children, husbands or significant others and jobs know…time is a word not often in our vocabularies. But I have seen it done and am optimistic that learning as I go can be successfully accomplished.

Thank you to all of you who have helped me with new ideas and opportunities.

“Ah but a man’s reach should exceed his grasp or what’s a heaven for.” -Robert Browning

A Little Situation

Those of you who know me, know that I’ve been looking feverishly for a full time job. Although being a full time mom and writer is truly my dream, those student loans aren’t going to pay themselves. I was feeling a little blue about my failure to find financial freedom when I realized that maybe this is simply not in the cards. After all, my first book was just released six months ago with book two hot on its heels. The rest of the series will follow as I find the time to finish and refine. It appears that I may be seeking to tie my own hands.

Although my husband considers me to be quite a looker, employers in a sluggish economy beg to differ. I see the cute young girls with their short skirts and high heels buzzing about their new jobs while I get a simple, “We’ll be in touch.”

So I suppose it’s time to look at this in a more positive light. Yes there is one!

I do have a job as a substitute teacher, which I love, but obviously not in the summer. Using this time off to complete some of my compiled creations would be a much better use of my time than spending hours on the computer filling out faceless applications. I’ll work almost all the time once school begins in the fall, giving me a suitable schedule to write with no weekends. Besides, I love the kids in the ISD and spending time with them is a blessing in so many ways.

So maybe it’s not so bad after all. Sometimes I think God’s plan is a little better than my own. Imagine that.

Finding Your Voice

So Easter’s Lilly is on tour, virtually speaking. When I look back on my writing process, I do have to wonder why I didn’t think to go with a more traditional style when I wrote my novels. Boy meets girl, boy and girl fight and break up, boy and girl are reunited in the end and all is right with the world. No, not me. Not that I’ve every really been very traditional. I wrote the entire series in the first person, which is also not very mainstream and the story line is very “soapy” so to speak. I’ve had a few very young reviewers not understand it but pretty much most people of maturity really find it to be a crazy ride. I love my characters as though they were real people and can’t imagine my life without them now. 

Do I regret finding my voice and leaping out of the boat with an untraditional storytelling style? Not one bit. I have found that if you try to please everyone, you end up pleasing no one. So if you’re a writer and your voice isn’t “traditional” or “normal,” follow your heart and continue to love what you write. Personally, I think as long as you love what you write; other people will love it too.


Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart. - William Wordsworth

Games and our children

Have you opened the window and let the devil in? Sometimes that’s how I feel about the gaming system my children have talked us into buying them. Before games I would find my boys all over the house, in all kinds of positions, reading books by the dozen.  “Mom, can you buy me the new Rick Riordan book?” or “Mommy, I need the new Goosebumps book!” Now it’s, “Why can’t I get the new Black Ops game?” Yuck! Where did all the reading go? How do we re-stimulate their minds?

My generation didn’t really have games. We played pinball or packman (yes, I realize I’m dating myself) but it was never the priority it has become today. With summer approaching, I suspect I had better start some kind of reading program at home or look for one at a local library. It is an inevitable part of life, nowadays. Technology is rapidly taking over our society. How to get the games under control…still a work in progress.

Review of Easter's Lilly by Lisa Taylor of http://kssnnikkel.blogspot.com

Easter's Lilly is on tour! I was very excited to get a star review by Lisa Taylor.

5.0 out of 5 stars Easter's Lilly, May 26, 2011

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Lisa E. Taylor "Lisa @ kssnnikkel" (Arkansas) - See all my reviews
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I read this in 2 nights! It would have been one but meds knocked me out. The story is about a young girl thinking she's in love with a guy that her family says is all wrong for her. In a roundabout way she gets caught up with the Montiago family and boy is her life caught up in a whirlwind! She finds out people are not who she thinks and some are less than what she thought. I'm not going to say much more because I don't want to give anything away.
I really enjoyed this book. It's a love story with a mobster family twist and it moves fast enough to keep you glued to the pages. I enjoy the way Judy Serrano tells a story.

There was only one thing I DID NOT like and that was having to wait for part 2!!! I'm anxiously waiting to find out what happens the next Easter Sunday!

Review from a reader

I was so excited that I had to share what my latest reader had to say about Easter's Lilly. Thank you Melissa!

I absolutely loved the book. From the moment I started reading I could not stop. I was very into the book from start to finish. I would recommend this to anyone. Now I am just waiting for the next book to come out so I can continue reading the story. Very anxiously waiting...

Melissa Delbosque